An Overview Of Foster Parenting
By Mike Selvon

Foster parenting is a government-sponsored program that provides a temporary care family to children in need. There are also many private agencies that offer foster care, but they still need to meet government regulations. Parents interested in foster care go through an extensive process to become suitable for foster care before they are able to be certified and given children to care for.

Foster parenting typically applies to children that are considered minors, but there are certain cases in which co parenting foster care is taken on, usually in cases of children over the legal age that are disabled or have mental deficiencies. In some cases, co parenting foster care is also given to children over the legal age that the state requires be still "attached" to other family members that are already in the foster parenting system.

In many cases, foster care is a temporary home for children before they are either returned home to their biological parents or until they find another foster care home. One of the biggest issues in foster care is having the foster parents get too attached to the foster children.

Foster parenting can be tough because of this, so parenting styles must be adapted for the special circumstances of foster care. Instead of using traditional parenting styles, those in foster parenting utilize distance techniques to both give the child adequate professional care but also to remain emotionally distant so as to avoid any connection that would be harmful.

Foster parenting is also in place as a temporary home for those children who may be waiting for adoption. One of the many critiques of the foster care system is that it is a proverbial revolving door for children that offers them no real foundation for growth. Because the adoption process is so rigid and necessarily thorough, there is really no other option but to care for the child in the manner of foster parenting.

The foster parenting program may also be invoked in areas in which a parenting program demonstrates that a parent is unfit or unwell. In these cases, the parental rights may be removed by the state and replaced with temporary rights in which the state acts in the interest of the child. These cases are always tough and rarely end up well for the child, but the state feels compelled to act under the necessity of protecting children under its care.

Foster parenting is a tough part of life for those unfortunate enough to need the system to work for them. It typically is known for not offering any legitimate support in a long term sense and, instead, supplies temporary housing with emotionally distant "parents". Often, the foster care home is said to be the worst possible place for a child.

Still, there are many people that have given their lives and love to foster parenting. These people are often never acknowledged as the selfless and giving people they are. Taking a chance on foster parenting can be a risky, but rewarding, venture.

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Adopting a Child with Mental or Physical Problems

 

Adoptive parents often seek infants rather than older children, children of the same race, and children without any mental or physical problems.  Therefore governments and agencies actively look for people to adopt older children and children with special needs. Children with 'special needs' refer to children with disabilities (emotional, mental or physical), children that belong to a minority race, older children, siblings, and children who are at-risk.

 

Especially Needy Children

 

Disabilities

Disabilities may come in mental, physical and emotional varieties, of which behavioral issues are always a subset of emotional disabilities.  According to the Child Welfare Information Gateway, it is also estimated that anywhere from around 30 to 50 percent of children awaiting adoption have a developmental disability.

 

Minority Race

Some agencies consider affiliation to a minority race as a 'special need' when not enough families have adopted children of this certain race.

 

Age

Different states put different limits on the maximum age at which a child can be considered as having special needs.

 

Sibling Status

Groups of two or more siblings with little or no disabilities are usually easy to place. This usually falls under the special needs category when other factors (age, race, etc.) are present.

 

At-Risk

Children who are at risk of developing physical, behavioral, emotional, or learning problems in the future are considered to be children with special needs. Such children include those who have been subjected to drugs, abuse or neglect.  They also include those who have genetic pre-dispositions to mental disabilities and physical illness.

 

You Are Not Alone

 

Parents adopting such children from the foster care system can often avail of adoption subsidies, or Adoption Assistance Payments (AAP). AAP are made monthly to adoptive parents and the amount is based solely on how serious the child's disabilities are. This subsidy is not compensation; it is meant to defray some of the expenses accrued raising the children, not reimburse the entire cost.

 

The subsidy program, created in 1980, has been very successful in boosting adoption of especially needy children and reforming the foster care system. Studies show that even a child who has full subsidy encourages savings in the long run by keeping institution populations down.

 

Unfortunately, internationally adopted children are not eligible for this subsidy. Some states used to allow this, but the laws have changed and the possibility of getting a subsidy for especially needy children from another race has been eliminated.  However, if a transracial adoption dissolves - that is, fails after having legally been completed - the child enters the U.S. foster care system and he or she becomes qualified for the subsidy the moment he or she enters another adoptive home.

 

Since laws are always changing, prospective adoptive individuals or families should ask an attorney or agency if their internationally-adopted children may qualify for any other programs.

 

A child in foster care should have a Title IV-E eligibility checklist, which will show whether or not he or she qualifies for AAP subsidy. There are also state-funded subsidies, should the child not be eligible for the AAP program.  It's best to consult an adoption attorney or agency regarding local laws.

 

Caring for a Special-Needs Child

 

As with any other child, the adopted special-needs child requires a lot of commitment and love from the adoptive parents. The parents who seek adoption of a special needs child are often different in profile than those who adopt healthy infants.

 

They often already have large families with biological and/or adopted or foster children, and have had previous experience with the whole adoption process, school systems and health care professionals. They see themselves as successful at parenting, with the necessary skills to care for a 'challenged' child. Their motive is usually to uplift the quality of life for the family member with special needs.

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Adoption Statistics

 

Adoptions are continuing to increase around the world.  This is due in part to the amount of agencies that are available to help people adopt.  Also, many movie stars and celebrities have adopted children, making it a newsworthy item.  Many statistics can be found as they pertain to adoptions from specific countries.  Some statistics are not available because there is no one governing institution that records them.

 

Foster care often leads to adoption.  Foster care is comprised of children who are wards of the state or who are in temporary assignment due to abuse or neglect.  Some of these children go on to be adopted while many actually go through their entire childhood in foster care.  Children in foster care are typically older children – not infants.

 

Many children are “adopted” by relatives without going through legal adoptive measures.  Sometimes the children born to young unwed women are cared for by the grandparents without formal adoption taking place.  Other times, formal adoption does take place, often due to court orders.

 

International adoptions are rising greatly.  This is possibly due to the fact that transracial families are becoming more freely accepted around the world. 

 

• The average adoptive family is made up of the following:

 

Married couples        67%

Single Women          28%

Single Men                3%

Unmarried Couples   2%

 

• There are more than 119,000 children in the United Stated in foster care waiting for adoption. The number of children in foster care has doubled since 1987.

 

• There are more than 60,000 children in foster care in the UK.

 

• In the United States a survey indicated that four out of every ten people have considered adoption.  This translates to over 80 million people.  If one in every 500 Americans adopted they would take care of all the foster children in the system.

 

• Children of many countries are adopted each year.  In 2006 these were the top 20 countries that children were adopted from.

 

1. China
2. Guatemala
3. Russia
4. South Korea
5. Ethiopia
6. Kazakhstan
7. Ukraine
8. Liberia
9. Colombia
10. India
11. Haiti
12. Philippines
13. China (Taiwan born)
14. Vietnam
15. Mexico
16. Poland
17. Brazil
18. Nepal
19. Nigeria
20. Thailand

• There are approximately 120,000 adoptions each year

 

• The cost of domestic adoptions using public agencies was $2,500.  The cost of international adoptions can range up to $30,000.

 

• An estimated 15% of adoptions are trans-racial. That amount is on the rise.  In 1997 it was estimated at about 8%.

 

• 90% of young mothers indicated that they would like to reunite with their child later on. 40 times more birth mothers than birth fathers are searching for their child.

 

• International adoptions have tripled since 1997.  International children who are adopted are called orphans.

 

• Of children adopted from foster care approx. 62% are adopted by the foster care parents, 23% were adopted by relatives and 15% were adopted by unrelated families.

 

• Approximately 40% of adoption placements are done through private adoption agencies.

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Baby Adoption Fees
By Jimmy Sturo

The monetary considerations involved in adopting a baby must be carefully taken into account in the preliminary stages. Statutory laws for adoption vary from place to place. For the same reason, adoption costs are not uniform, differing on the basis of both the law and the private policies of the adoption agencies.

Agencies that act as intermediaries in adoptions can be either public or private. The cheapest procedure would be one conducted by a public agency, such as State Social Services. There are some private organizations that are non-profit. Adopting a child from the U.S. Foster Care System costs less than going through an independent adoption agency. In fact, when you adopt a child in foster care, not only is the cost minimum, but state help and sponsorship is also made available for you. Under these statutes, the state helps the parents financially while they are bringing up the child. You can also be offered Social Security Insurance, in case the child is afflicted with a severe medical condition.

Certain other factors can also increase or decrease the cost. For instance, an adoption agency might pay all expenses for one mother, while refusing the financial help to the other who might have decided to go for adoption as late as the ninth month of her pregnancy. The fee for international kids also varies from country to country. The average approximate cost is around $30,000. This would include legal fees, traveling expenses and may or may not include visa costs.

The adoption fee should normally include the costs of doing home study, identifying the child for your family, any pre-adoption counseling and post-placement visits. Ideally, a family can apply for reimbursement of expenses involved in the adoption, once the adoption has been finalized, though in general, the maximum reimbursement is $2000 per adoption.

For better-cost affectivity, one can compare the adoption fees of different agencies and attorneys. The prospective parents should also be clear as to what the entire fee does and does not include. The fee also differs according to how difficult it might be to place the baby or to get the kind of baby one specifies. It is better to avoid using lawyers for adoption, as this can result in a legal loss of adoption assistance benefits for the child.

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What will we face when adoptees ask their birth parents, "Why did you put me in a gay home instead of with a heterosexual family? Was it because the gay couple paid a higher fee to an attorney or the birth mother?" Many professionals and birth parents are concerned with what the long term effects will be when an adopted child is purposely placed with and raised by a same sex couple. For adoptees, dealing with the normal stresses of life, along with always explaining the relationship with their parents and their adoptions, are challenge enough. How much more confused will their lives become with the added stress of the abnormal parent issue?

Two adoptees, now pre-teens, recently shared about their struggle in life and how they confidentially wished their birth parents, as they put it, "had loved them enough to place them in a normal home." Nick, age 12, shared, "I just don't get where she was when she thought this was going to be the best thing for a me. It isn't the best and I hate her for what she did. Why didn't she want me to have a normal life? I don't even have friends over and they don't invite me to their house. It just sucks. I am a freak, being raised by even freakier parents."

Jodi, age 14, shared a similar reaction. "Like the kids in school expect me to be gay too. I'm not and I think my birth mother must have really not cared where I went. I look at my friends at school and they have like completely normal lives, a mom and a dad. I have two dads. One of my friend's parents found out about my parents and won't let me hang around with their daughter, because I might influence her. I hate my life and can't wait to get out on my own. I don't fit in. My biological mother didn't care and my adoptive parents don't care either. I don't know where I fit in." Jenny is a 26 year old birth mother who chose a Lesbian couple to adopt her twin girls who are now 10 years old. She says, "I thought at the time it was cool. You know, they didn't have a chance anywhere else, and I was the one to help them make a family. They (the Lesbian couple) showered me with stuff and I thought at the time, "Hey why not?"

That was 10 years ago.

She now tells us, "One of the twins speaks to me and the other doesn't want to have any contact at all. I feel very bad and regret my decision. I was young and stupid; the attorney I used pushed this couple on me. I could ring her neck now for taking advantage of me and telling me that the only people that could help me were a gay couple. I didn't think of what the kids would think later. I don't know how that attorney sleeps at night. I wish I had made another decision, but I didn't. I am embarrassed and ashamed of what I did."

Most articles and reports focus on the rights of gay couples to adopt. No one talks about the rights of the children to be raised in an accepted family with a mom and a dad. They treat the children as a possession. Many prospective gay or lesbian parents turn to public foster care programs to create a family, as social workers are trying to get the children out of foster care and into any kind of home. The best interest of the children, again, is the last thing considered.

One social worker shared confidentially that she didn't have a choice. "I have a huge case load. They come in and push and push and we need to get the numbers up for the month, and we just roll over. I have never shared with my family what I do, but I carry a burden about the future. My job is very stressful; you don't know how hard it is to find parents for special needs children. If all I have to choose from are same sex couples, well then, they get to adopt the kids. What can I say?"

The system is set up much different than it was years ago. More state and private agencies are allowing gay adoptions in domestic and international adoptions. The agencies that are not supposed to accept gays turn their heads when asking a "single" parent about their family and personal life.

Some social workers flatly tell gay couples what to say on their applications and home study to get it approved. But what about the children? Until more straight adoptive parents step up and adopt waiting children, we will see an increase in children's anger regarding getting second best when it came to parents.

Nick and Jodi rightfully wonder how birth parents, social workers and attorneys will deal with the kids' anger for their actions today? Time will tell. And until then more children are placed in homes where the daily struggles and challenges of normal life suddenly have to take on the abnormal as well.

 

About the Author

Author Helen McDaniel is married and the adoptive mother of 3 children. She works with children in foster care and with family issues.

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