So you've met the person who you want to spend the rest of your life with. You get married, ride off into the sunset and live happily ever after. Right? Well perhaps happily every after? is subjective and means something different to different people. But whatever happens after you ride off into the sunset and disappear into the horizon, your married life will eventually have to make room for the little pitter patter of tiny feet. Right?

Well there are quite a few married couples who realize that for one reason or another, they cannot bear children together. Some married couples try for years to get pregnant, try all the fertility treatments (mainstream and alternative) and still come up empty handed. There are also some married couples who either married too late or waited too long so they reach the stage of past child-bearing age and suddenly, they feel they want a child. Then there are still some couples who have their own children and yet they feel the need to spread their joy and love further to other children still.

How ever different these three scenarios are, there may come a point in their lives when they will come across the life altering question they need to ask themselves, Am I ready to adopt a child??

The scarlet letter
Child adoption is a big step in a married couple?s lives and may be one of the biggest decisions they will have to make together that have a long lasting impact in their lives. Having children is a big responsibility in itself and child adoption brings with it its own set of sensitivities.

For all the right reasons
If you a childless married couple who have come to the end of their ropes in the hopes of conceiving, please take into consideration that child adoption isn?t necessarily the answer to your problem. Continued unsuccessful attempts at trying conceive can greatly strain a married couple?s relationship and it can test even the strongest of the strong.

At the point where you seem desperately grasping at straws, you might think of adopting a child to keep the marriage together. But think it through thoroughly because you are bringing in a new life into yours and it wouldn?t be fair to adopt under these circumstances. Remember, adopting a child doesn?t mean that all your problems will be solved. Adding a new member to your already chaotic relationship may even result in more harm than good.

Child adoption is a big responsibility that has a huge potential to further add love and fulfillment in a married couple?s life provided that they do so after they have considered all they need to consider and make the necessary adjustments for it.

Will it work for you?

So you?ve come to a decision that you want to adopt a child. You may be emotionally and mentally ready individually and as a couple enough to embark on this path but are you ready in other aspects?

First do some research and find out the requirements for child adoption. Also, find out statistics like how quickly can you expect to be able to find a child do adopt and bring home. Finding these details out will help both of you manage expectations.

Whatever you?ve been through to get to the point of wanting to adopt, remember to not focus so much on the fact that you cannot conceive your own children, instead, think of the parent-less child you will be bringing into your loving home soon.

About the Author:

Robert Thatcher is a freelance publisher based in Cupertino, California. He publishes articles and reports in various ezines and provides air purifier resources on www.your-adoption-resources.info.

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In the world of International Adoption, Guatemala is one of the most popular and least regulated Countries. Last year there were estimated to have been 1,500 Guatemalan Children and Babies who have started fresh lives abroad, but the spectre of Illegal Adoptions have haunted Guatemala for years. Stories have emerged of mothers being forced to give up their new born children and of a booming private adoption business that has now grown almost into a multi million pound industry.

One of the key questions to look into is, are illegal adoptions taking place and if so how widespread is the practice? Finally, what is in the best interests of the Children of Guatemala? "With Overseas adoption, what is in the best interests of the children of Guatemala?"

Whilst organisations, such as UNICEF, do not claim that all of the overseas adoptions coming out of Guatemala are illegal or abusive, a new report issued from the organisation does highlight the increasing problem of child trafficking.

"Overseas adoption arose directly out of Guatemala?s harrowing history."

Overseas Adoptions and International adoption arose directly out of Guatemala?s harrowing history. The 36 year civil war ? which ended officially only four years ago ? left nearly a quarter of a million dead or disappeared and one million homeless, half of them children.

Elizabeth Gibbons is the director of UNICEF, and a leading critic of adoption as practised in Guatemala:

?Many, many orphaned children were taken into adoption by military officers ? sent into international adoption. Originally a humanitarian activity, but it became obvious that it had the potential for being a lucrative business. And the higher demand in the West ? the more birth control, more access to abortion ? so you have the problem of a huge demand, therefore a supply must be created.?

In recent years there has been a tightening up of controls in many of the major embassies and the UK, US and Canadian embassies now carry out DNA tests of both the birth mother and the baby to check out that the woman giving the baby up for adoption is the real birth mother.

?The existence of DNA doesn?t in any way tell you whether the mother is willingly giving up the child or whether she is being coerced. The second concern is that the children who pass the DNA test are not the same ones who go with the adopting parents on the plane, they could be switched. And thirdly, that the child who is rejected for having a negative DNA result by one of three embassies that offer this test, can then be offered to another embassy with parents of a another nationality.?

'No one respects the law or the state; everybody just does their own thing. And it?s the same with adoptions'

So with all of this abuse of the system going on, why hasn?t the government of Guatemala done anything to stop it. The general consensus is that Guatemala is in chaos with the country, now a fledgling democracy, only just emerging from under the shadows of years of Military rule

Guatemala is a difficult place from which to operate from and it is very hard to know who is in charge of what. There doesn?t appear to be a Minister in charge of Social Affairs and Adoption is very much bottom rung on the ladder.

The Chair of the Commission on the Child and the Family in the Guatemalan Parliament is Nineth Montenegro who is a vigorous critic of her own system and is campaigning to pass the ?The Children?s Code? to protect the rights of the Child in Guatemala explains:

?We?ve been working on it for three years now and parliament still hasn?t passed it. They say, if we try to regulate adoption in this way we will deny children better opportunities in wealthier countries. There has been terrible resistance to the new law. You know Guatemala is a democracy only in name, not a real democracy.

No one respects the law or the state; everybody just does their own thing. And it?s the same with adoptions.?

Part Two of this article will deal with the fun and games (euphemism for hassle) of dealing with Lawyers and Orphanages

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Years ago, children who were adopted had a lot of issues, most of them related to wanting to know their real parents. They grew up and had always this in their mind, to know the real parents. They checked the adoption register in their home town and could not find anything. The problem here was that the adoption records were not correct.

You are probably also aware of just how difficult it can be to gain access to them. There are numerous reasons why an adoptee would want to take a look at the legal documents surrounding their adoption. Sometimes it is just pure curiosity, but other times, adoption records may hold the answer with regards to a grave illness or disease.

In most states, these legal records do not fall under the Freedom of Information Act, and therefore are not accessible by the general public, and also includes those individuals who have been adopted, or are an adoptive parent. Luckily, the Internet has made it possible to bring an adoptee together with their biological families, if both sides are willing. This makes gaining access to adoption records unnecessary; since the adopted individual will be able to learn everything they want to know first hand.

Some individuals who were adopted as babies are unaware of their true place and time of birth, have no idea who their biological parents were, and might be unaware of important medical situations that were present at birth. Adoption records can provide names of people and places that may be of importance, as well as a wealth of additional information.

For those who are seeking detailed information concerning their birth, there are many avenues that can be taken. For example, The National Center for Adoption Law and Policy will be able to provide information regarding laws that govern the unsealing of adoption records. In addition to this resource, The National Adoption Clearinghouse offers information on such topics as access to adoption records, confidential intermediaries, reunion registries, adoption laws and information pertaining to the release of birth records.

Conducting a search on the World Wide Web using any of the major search engines, and typing in the term ?adoption records? will yield about 330,000 results. Many of these results will link to organizations, agencies and the like who provide resources that will help you find the information you are seeking.

Another tool that is helpful when searching for information is pre-adoption records. While these records are not open to the general public, they are normally accessible by the adoptee, since it is this person?s information that the records hold. Pre-adoption records refer to records that were kept on an individual before a legal adoption took place. These records can include, but are not limited to, hospital records, court records, children?s service agency records and immunization records. Some of these records may hold the key to finding the actual adoption records.

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Here is my First Official Post to outline my Catagories and Tags for Adoptions and Orphans.

Thanks,

Andy Madsen

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